Keep hot sex and passion in your marriage with this easy 10 minute love cultivation technique

Over the years I have developed a self cultivation routine I use to increase the love energy flowing in my two hearts. I believe women have two hearts. The emotional one centered in a woman's bosom (the love heart) and the passion heart centered in her genitals. The two hearts are connected and I believe a woman feels the greatest sense of completeness when both hearts have continuous flow of energy coming in.

I don’t mean to sound too ‘newage’ish. However, I have found my life is the most fulfilling when both my hearts are nurtured and in balance. I have developed a simple system I use almost daily to nurture my two hearts and keep them filled with love and passion. It only takes a few minutes but it has a huge impact on my quality of life and my relationships.

I pick a time and place when I know I won’t be disturbed for 10 minutes or so, usually in the morning. My hubby gets up early most mornings to exercise. Often we’ll have a ‘quickie’ before he leaves. It serves as a nice warm up for him and puts me in the perfect mood for my warming of the two hearts routine. Sometimes I just want to fall asleep after we share orgasms so I will do my heart warming routine later in the day.

My heart warming routine goes something like this: while lying in bed or sitting comfortably I close my eyes, put a big smile on my face (research shows smiling released feel good chemicals in our brains), place my hands over my bosom or love heart and fantasize.

First, I think of things that make me happy. I think of things that give me a warm fuzzy feeling in my love heart. I think of my kitty and the way she purrs when I pet her. I think of my kids and tender moments I’ve had with them. I think of the kindness my hubby shows, the things he does for me and how he makes me feel safe. I know this sounds silly. It’s like I’m singing the “My favorite things” song from the movie Sound of Music. But it works. Don’t knock until you’ve tried it. Sometimes I think about the things I am grateful for and give thanks to God. I you are not particularly religious you can think about how luck you are. The important thing is feel gratitude and joy.

Then I visualize lying in the sun and feeling its warm amber energy. I think of a yellow sunbeam entering my body and filling it with warm loving energy from my head to my toes. If I am having negative thoughts I visualize the energy getting brighter and pushing the negative thoughts out of me.

After doing this for a few minutes I switch to warming my passion heart. I remember to keep smiling, and then I place my hands over my passion heart (my vulva). I feel the warmth of my hands on my nether regions and then begin to fantasize erotic thoughts about my hubby and me. When I feel my juices starting to flow, I reach over to the nightstand and get my ezCOME out of the top drawer where I keep it and insert it into my now wet vagina.

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I then go back to fantasizing about my hubby and me while I squeeze the ezCOME using my pelvic muscles. Sometimes I squeeze them lingeringly slow and pretend the ezCOME is my hubby’s penis and I fantasize about driving him crazy with pleasure using my well developed vaginal muscles (which I love doing to him). Sometimes I flutter them like a butterfly’s wings until I am so excited I know it will just take a minute or two of direct stimulation on my clitoris to push me over the edge into orgasm. Often I don’t need any direct stimulation of my clitoris and will climax just from flexing my pelvic muscles. (These spontaneous orgasms started happening after about 8 weeks of using the ezCOME, your results may vary.)

If you are like me you may have a favorite fantasy. Mine usually involves my hubby’s strong tanned hands; one hand is cupping and fondling my breasts and the other is resting upon my vulva. The hand at my breasts begins pleasuring me, expertly palming and tugging my nipples. The stiffening and rise of my nipples it is not my imagination. Down below I imagine my hubby’s middle finger slithering into my cleft to tenderly tease my clitoris with gentle circling motions. In reality it is my own fingers teasing my clit.

While I play this image in my mind, I work my pussy muscles using the ezCOME—squeeze, release, squeeze, release—until I am squirming with passion and the need to release it. Before long my passion overflows into orgasm. Afterward comes the wonderfully sweet afterglow and the feelings of having both my love heart and passion heart full and in balance.

Feelings of love and passion have to be cultivated and nurtured to keep them healthy. The ‘warming the hearts’ routine only takes a few minutes each day, but the benefits of filling your love heart and your passion heart is significant for increased joy in life and your relationships.

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Use a passion pillow to rub your G-spot just right.

While out shopping I found a fantastic passion pillow. I like to place a pillow under my bum during sex in my favorite position. Not only does it make sex more comfortable.

It has the effect of tilting my hips and changing the angle of my vagina in such a way that causes my hubby’s penis to rub and press into my G-spot when he thrusts.

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I’m not sure what the ‘correct name’ of this sex positions is, as it has several. I like the Tantric name ‘The Flower Press’ best because I like to think of my femaleness and my sex as a flower and this position presses this flower’s button just right!

We begin in the ‘missionary position’ with me lying on my back. Then once my hubby is inside me, I spread my legs wide, lift them up in the air, and place my ankles on my hubby’s shoulders and bring my legs closer together to take to strain off my hips. Sometimes I like the feeling of him between my thighs and I wrap my legs around his waist. I then lift up my bum and he places a pillow under my hips.

My hubby likes this position too. It allows him to have full view of me and he can lean against my thighs and support himself while using his hands to caress my breasts and play with my nipples, which I like a lot. He also says he likes it because he can watch me play with my clitoris.

In this position I love the way his penis rubs against the base of my clitoris inside my vagina and presses into my G-spot when he thrusts. Because I have developed my vagina muscles with regular pelvic exercise, I’ll have him enter me and remain still while I squeeze and milk his penis (The Velvet Grip technique), pressing it into my G-spot by flexing my vaginal muscles and bring myself to orgasm with him buried inside me.

Sometimes I use my hand to stimulate my clitoris. And sometimes I like to have him go really deep inside me so I pull my knees to my chest.

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My hubby has learned he needs only to gently thrust his penis into my G-spot as I build up to orgasm, its more like a bumping motion than a thrust, or he remains still and enjoys the pleasure of my strong vagina gripping ans squeezing his penis and then my orgasmic contractions around his penis.

I also like it when he plays with my nipples during my build up to climax. Then, when I start to come, he pinches my nipples firmly (but not too hard) and gently pulls them as I reach the peak of my orgasm.

He has learned to wait for my most intense orgasm (usually the third or fourth one) to tug my nipples. Otherwise they are too tender for the next time we have sex.

The sight of my final intense orgasm, not only lets him know it is his turn to come, it usually turns him on so much he has no choice but to come. His grabbing of my legs and hungrily thrusting his penis into me as he climaxes, prolongs my own orgasmic pleasure.

I do have in my collection of sex accessories a Liberator® wedge. I usually keep it in the closet out of sight. It just doesn’t look like the kind of pillow you leave out. And when the time is right to use it, we are usually too involved in what we are doing to stop and get it out of the closet. Although I am sure my hubby would gladly retrieve it for me, if I asked.

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But by this time I am too hungry to have his penis inside me, or I am enjoying the feeling of him being inside me and I don’t want to stop. So we make do with tucking one of the bed pillows under my bum.

But today I found the perfect passion pillow. It is wedged shaped to provide the necessary tilting of my hips to line up my G-spot with my hubby’s thrusting penis, and it is cute enough to leave on the bed when we are not using it for sex.

And if that isn’t enough to get you excited, it also comes in several different colors and has bling. You can choose from ‘Diva’ or a peace sign design (I thought the peace sign was cleaver play on words if you think of the pillow as a sex accessory). It only costs $12 at your local BigLots store! If you want one you better act fast because I don’t know how long they will have them in stock.

What Does Learning to Wiggle My Ears Have to Do with Becoming a Multi-Orgasmic Woman?

When I was a kid for some reason I wanted to learn how to wiggle my ears. I was probably 10 or 11 years old at the time and I thought being able to wiggle my ears would be so cool. Hey I was a kid.

I remember first trying to concentrate real hard and making my ears wiggle. If you haven’t tried this, it is a lot harder than it sounds. I remember feeling my face move and my eyebrows move but I couldn’t tell if my ears were wiggling.

I then tried using my hands to feel if my ears were moving, but that didn’t work very well. It wasn’t until I got the idea to look in a mirror while trying to wiggle my ears that I started to make progress.

I went in the bathroom and watched myself as a tried to figure out how to make my ears move. It took a lot of trial and error with me making all kinds of funny looking faces.

Finally after watching myself in the mirror and learning how to move my facial muscles I was able to isolate the correct muscles and I could make my ears wiggle just a tiny bit.

I remember the first things I had to learn was to not move all the other muscles in my face and learn to move just the ones needed to make my ears wiggle.

Learning to wiggle my ears was quite a challenge. It was one of those weird things I did as a kid. I am sure you have some of your own weird kid things so stop laughing at mine.

Anyway I was determined to learn to wiggle my ears and I would practice just about every time is was alone and in front of a mirror, such as when I would brush my teeth in the morning and at night.

After a couple of weeks of this I got really good at wiggling my ears. I no longer needed to look in the mirror to get it right. In fact I got so good I could wiggle each ear by itself, kind of like left and right turn signals on a car. I can wiggle the left ear or the right ear or both at the same time. I remember showing off to my friends. Nobody else in could do it.

I can still do it today. It is like learning to ride a bike. Once you learn how, the basic skill stays with you the rest of your life.

Okay you may be wondering what this has to do with a woman’s orgasm. Well quite a lot actually. You see learning to climax and enjoy easy orgasms is a lot like learning to wiggle your ears; at least it was for me. And from the research I’ve done it applies to all women. Let me explain.

After years of frustration and difficulty achieving orgasm, especially during sex with my husband, I decided I would do something about it. I knew how to climax, I had been doing it by myself since I was a teenager, but sometimes it would take forever to happen.

I decided this was not right or fair for that matter and I opened my mind to the possibility that a woman’s orgasms should be easy and frequent. I got tired of reading articles about other women who enjoyed multiple orgasms on a regular basis. I decided I was going to be one of those women.

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As I researched how to become more orgasmic I learned the importance of training my orgasm muscle or pubococcygeal muscle AKA the PC muscle. I learned that most women (over 90% in one study) did not know how to contract and control this muscle that is so critical for female orgasm.

Studies showed that most women when asked to squeeze their PC muscle mistakenly tighten their buttocks, thighs, legs, and abdominal muscles instead. Studies also showed the best way for a woman to learn to get in tune with her orgasm muscle and learn to flex it was through some kind of biofeedback.

What this means is she needs to see what she is doing so she can learn when she is doing it correctly. Then she can focus on that and improve her skill and control of the muscle.

This is when I had an “Ah ha!” moment and remembered how I had learned to wiggle my ears as a kid. I had used biofeedback when looking into the mirror to figure out how to move the muscles to wiggle my ears! And how not to move the other muscles in my face.

I was one of those women who would have to tighten my legs stiff as a board while working my way to an orgasm. Sometimes I would get a cramp in my leg. And the following day the muscles in my butt and the back of my legs would be stiff and sore.

In this on my back and stiff legged position you can forget trying to orgasm during intercourse. There was no way I could enjoy my husband and climax in this position.

I needed to be in this stiff legged position because that is how I first learned to reach orgasm when I was a teenager. That was the only way I knew how to get the muscle tension I needed to climax.

It wasn’t until I learned to consciously control my orgasm muscle using a pelvic muscle exerciser that gave me not only the resistance necessary to strengthen the pelvic muscles but also provided the biofeedback I needed did I learn how to climax in almost any position, orgasm during intercourse and do it multiple times.

Just like learning to wiggle my ears using biofeedback, regular practice with my pelvic muscle exerciser has made climaxing easier and multiple orgasms routine. Now I am one of those multi-orgasmic women I used to envy.

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