Keep hot sex and passion in your marriage with this easy 10 minute love cultivation technique

Over the years I have developed a self cultivation routine I use to increase the love energy flowing in my two hearts. I believe women have two hearts. The emotional one centered in a woman's bosom (the love heart) and the passion heart centered in her genitals. The two hearts are connected and I believe a woman feels the greatest sense of completeness when both hearts have continuous flow of energy coming in.

I don’t mean to sound too ‘newage’ish. However, I have found my life is the most fulfilling when both my hearts are nurtured and in balance. I have developed a simple system I use almost daily to nurture my two hearts and keep them filled with love and passion. It only takes a few minutes but it has a huge impact on my quality of life and my relationships.

I pick a time and place when I know I won’t be disturbed for 10 minutes or so, usually in the morning. My hubby gets up early most mornings to exercise. Often we’ll have a ‘quickie’ before he leaves. It serves as a nice warm up for him and puts me in the perfect mood for my warming of the two hearts routine. Sometimes I just want to fall asleep after we share orgasms so I will do my heart warming routine later in the day.

My heart warming routine goes something like this: while lying in bed or sitting comfortably I close my eyes, put a big smile on my face (research shows smiling released feel good chemicals in our brains), place my hands over my bosom or love heart and fantasize.

First, I think of things that make me happy. I think of things that give me a warm fuzzy feeling in my love heart. I think of my kitty and the way she purrs when I pet her. I think of my kids and tender moments I’ve had with them. I think of the kindness my hubby shows, the things he does for me and how he makes me feel safe. I know this sounds silly. It’s like I’m singing the “My favorite things” song from the movie Sound of Music. But it works. Don’t knock until you’ve tried it. Sometimes I think about the things I am grateful for and give thanks to God. I you are not particularly religious you can think about how luck you are. The important thing is feel gratitude and joy.

Then I visualize lying in the sun and feeling its warm amber energy. I think of a yellow sunbeam entering my body and filling it with warm loving energy from my head to my toes. If I am having negative thoughts I visualize the energy getting brighter and pushing the negative thoughts out of me.

After doing this for a few minutes I switch to warming my passion heart. I remember to keep smiling, and then I place my hands over my passion heart (my vulva). I feel the warmth of my hands on my nether regions and then begin to fantasize erotic thoughts about my hubby and me. When I feel my juices starting to flow, I reach over to the nightstand and get my ezCOME out of the top drawer where I keep it and insert it into my now wet vagina.

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I then go back to fantasizing about my hubby and me while I squeeze the ezCOME using my pelvic muscles. Sometimes I squeeze them lingeringly slow and pretend the ezCOME is my hubby’s penis and I fantasize about driving him crazy with pleasure using my well developed vaginal muscles (which I love doing to him). Sometimes I flutter them like a butterfly’s wings until I am so excited I know it will just take a minute or two of direct stimulation on my clitoris to push me over the edge into orgasm. Often I don’t need any direct stimulation of my clitoris and will climax just from flexing my pelvic muscles. (These spontaneous orgasms started happening after about 8 weeks of using the ezCOME, your results may vary.)

If you are like me you may have a favorite fantasy. Mine usually involves my hubby’s strong tanned hands; one hand is cupping and fondling my breasts and the other is resting upon my vulva. The hand at my breasts begins pleasuring me, expertly palming and tugging my nipples. The stiffening and rise of my nipples it is not my imagination. Down below I imagine my hubby’s middle finger slithering into my cleft to tenderly tease my clitoris with gentle circling motions. In reality it is my own fingers teasing my clit.

While I play this image in my mind, I work my pussy muscles using the ezCOME—squeeze, release, squeeze, release—until I am squirming with passion and the need to release it. Before long my passion overflows into orgasm. Afterward comes the wonderfully sweet afterglow and the feelings of having both my love heart and passion heart full and in balance.

Feelings of love and passion have to be cultivated and nurtured to keep them healthy. The ‘warming the hearts’ routine only takes a few minutes each day, but the benefits of filling your love heart and your passion heart is significant for increased joy in life and your relationships.

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Orgasmic Exercise - Get Fit for Orgasm

The first Monday in January is the busiest day of the year for gyms.

Studies show that New Year’s resolutions to begin exercising last about 2 weeks. People that join a gym go for the first couple of weeks then around the 15th of January attendance at gyms begins to drop off.

Maybe knowing those women who exercise have twice as many orgasms at those who don’t will help keep you motivated.

More than 80% of women who use a pelvic exerciser notice improvements in their sexual experience and orgasms within 4 weeks.

And the longer they keep at it the better it gets.

Effective pelvic exercises only take minutes a day with a pelvic exerciser.

You don’t have to join a gym and pelvic exercises are fun. Some women climax during their exercise sessions.

Make a New Year’s resolution you will actually keep. Start a vaginal fitness program this year.

I recommend the ezCOME. A simple way to exercise in the only way proven to quickly improve your pelvic muscle strength and sexual awareness. Learn to identify and control the correct muscles then squeeze against the resistance.

Read this article about the fantastic benefits properly trained pelvic floor muscles can give you: Fit for Orgasm

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My “Marvelous Toy” Hacks for the Hitachi Magic Wand - Make the Best Even Better!

There are a lot of fancy and expensive vibrators/sex toys available for women but a girl can’t get anything as simple to use and more reliable than the Hitachi Magic Wand.

The Hitachi Magic Wand has several things going for it:

First, it doesn’t look like a sex toy! It just looks like a massager, and it is probably the best sex toy ever made at such an affordable price.

Second, it is simple to operate with two speeds to choose from: Low or High and its length and design make it easy to put it where you need it.

Third it is effective. It gives really good vibrations with out a lot of noise and since it is corded it never runs out of power.

Fourth, it is well made and reliable. I have used mine regularly for nearly two decades. The only thing we have had to replace is the cord, more on that in a minute.

Fifth, it can also be uses as a massager. In case you need to work out the kinks in your neck or back muscles before or after you get kinky.

Now onto ways to “Hack” your Hitachi Magic Wand.

The Hitachi Magic Wand comes with a standard 6 foot electric cord. With regular use the cord gets weakened where it enters the handle and will short out and cause it to stop working.

I learned this the hard way. Let me tell you how very frustrating it is to be right on the edge of a massive clitoral orgasm, to have the tension built up and know with just a few more seconds of vibration you are going to experience an incredible toe curling, scream into the pillow so you don’t wake the kids climax; and when you are almost there…oh yes, yes, Ye.. (“Snap”, “pop” and then silence), oh no, NOOOooo……and your vibrator shorts out and quits working. Very, very frustration let me tell you. I laugh about it now.

This happened a couple of times over the years with my hubby having to replace the power cord. Then he came up with the perfect solution: he replaced the 6 foot cord with the 25 ft long cord from an old vacuum cleaner. Not only is the cord sturdier and not prone to weakening at the handle and shorting out, it doesn’t easily tangle. Plus the added length makes it easy to take the vibrator along when you have sex in different locations in your bedroom without having to worry about finding an outlet nearby. The same goes for when you travel and stay in a hotel. The extra long cord is very convenient.

My first Hitachi Magic Wand Hack is to replace the standard issue cord with a long vacuum cleaner cord.

The second Hack has to do with the speed and intensity of the vibrations. Since the vibrator only has two speeds some women may find it both too fast and too powerful for their needs. I have found a corded plug-in lamp dimmer slide switch can be used to adjust the speed. The disadvantage to this is the cord on the dimmer switch is 6 foot long, so its functionality may be limited by the length of the cord.



Another way to vary the intensity of the vibration is to put a clean sock over the vibrating head of the Hitachi Magic Wand. This is a lot more convenient than using the dimmer switch. Plus you don’t risk damaging your marvelous toy by using the dimmer switch to vary the power. My hubby says it won’t cause any damage, but the manufacturer may disagree. Besides the sock method is a lot cheaper and you aren’t limited by the power cord’s length.

Here is a video demonstrating the sock method. Be advised it is adult in nature and rather humorous too at the end:

Sock it to Me video

You can also use a towel to dampen the vibrations or buy special covering for the head, but the clean sock is works just as well and is a whole lot cheaper and you just toss it in the laundry when you are done. I keep a stash of clean socks in the drawer next to the bed just for this purpose.

I should mention that any modifications (such as replacing the cord) done to your Hitachi Magic Wand will void its warranty. But my hubby says they are well made and anyone that is handy with a soldering iron and knows basic wiring can replace the cord without any problems. I suspect than many owners that think their marvelous toys has burned out after a few years probably just need to replace the cord. Besides if your Hitachi Magic Wand is more than a couple of years old it is out of the warranty period anyway.

The final Hack is useful for many items not just the Hitachi Magic wand. You’ll need a bedside organizer or caddy and a small electric heat pad. Carefully fold the heat pad and tuck it into the large compartment of the bedside caddy. Then place the Hitachi Magic Wand inside the folded heat pad. Set the heat pad to the lowest setting an hour or so before you’ll be using your “marvelous toy” to make it nice and warm for when you cozy it up to your tender parts. Make sure it is not too warm.

Build Your Own Bedside Warming Caddy

The other pockets are great for storing your personal lubes or other sex accessories. You can also put your lube in with the heat pad to warm it up too. Do loosen the cap and keep it upright so it won’t swell or leak as it expands from being warmed and test the temperature of the lube on your wrist before using to make sure it is not too hot.

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My Marvelous Toy - the Hitachi Magic Wand

Over the holidays my son fell in love with the song “The Marvelous Toy” and has been singing it everyday. It got me thinking about my own "marvelous toy" my husband bought me after we married.

Growing up I was a little insecure about my sexuality. I guess every teenage girl is to some degree. I was fortunate in that I grew up in a religious home where sex was regarded as something sacred and something special and ment to be enjoyed by a husband and wife and not something that was dirty or to be ashamed of.

So when I discovered the joys of masturbation as a teenager I tried to keep it to a minimum, realizing it was important to know how my body worked so I could share it with my husband after I got married.

My hubby tells me he was glad I had gotten familiar with my body and knew how to orgasm when we got married and was greatful I was a virgin (we both were) and not a prude.

Even with this mindset I was still a little shy about sex after we got married. So I was thrilled when my husband bought me "my marvelous toy". You see even though I enjoyed sex and knew how to climax; it took a lot of work (back then). So to make it easier for me to climax he bought me a Hitachi Magic Wand electric vibrator. He even left me a little note encouraging me to test drive it in private so I could get comfortable using it to achieve orgasm by myself and so I could share that knowledge with him later.

The Hitachi Magic Wand is probably the best appliances we have ever purchased and is still going strong after nearly 2 decades of regular use. In fact we often give a Hitachi Magic Wand as a wedding present to young couples.

So if you don’t own a Hitachi Magic Wand now I strongly recommend you get one---the sooner the better!

Just a little note to you men, don’t feel threatened by a vibrator. The more orgasms a woman has the more she wants. Using a vibrator makes orgasm happen quicker and with less work. Don’t worry she won’t replace having sex with you for having sex with herself and the Hitachi Magic Wand. She will still want your "Magic Wand" and more often too.

And just think how much you’ll enjoy fondling her and watching her get off, ooh la la!

Another thing about having a Hitachi Magic Wand is if you forget to put it away and the kids or in-laws find it you wont be embarrassed because after all it is just a massager for sore muscles right (wink, wink).

Next time I will share some ways to Hack your Hitachi Magic Wand and make it an even more marvelous toy.

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