Tricks Women Can Use to Make Having an Orgasm Easier

No it’s not that kind of trick.

Dr. Louanne C. Weston, a board certified sex therapist, explains that around 10 percent of women have never had an orgasm, either alone or with a partner. Some of these unfortunate ladies are smart enough to recognize the problem and seek a solution. The good news, according to Dr. Weston, is it is possible for a woman to learn to be orgasmic.

The most important thing a woman needs to know to make achieving an orgasm easier is to learn how to properly balance the amount of tension and relaxation during sex. You may be wondering how you can be both tense and relaxed at the same time.

The key thing to understand here is the difference between muscle tension and stress tension. Stress tension is the tightness in your neck, shoulders and sometimes your back caused by mental worries and life’s stresses. It is a good idea to relax and release the stress tension built up in your neck and shoulders with massage and relaxation exercises before sex. But trying to remain totally relaxed during sex will make having an orgasm difficult.

A woman needs a fair amount muscle tension to reach orgasm, especially when she is first learning how. Most women first learn to orgasm while tightening their leg, stomach and butt muscles. Once a woman learns to climax this way she will continue to need use these muscles to provide the tension she needs for orgasm until she learns a better and easier way.

The best orgasm inducing muscles for women to tense up are the muscles in her lower pelvic region. These are the same muscle used to stop the flow of urine. Developing conscience control of contracting or tensing these pelvic floor muscles makes getting the right amount of orgasm inducing muscle tension easy.

When the pelvic flour muscles are tensed or flexed the blood flow to the genitals increases. This not only increases a woman’s arousal, her increased awareness and control of these muscles heightens her sensitivity to sexual stimulation.

When a woman has correctly developed her pelvic floor muscles through regular pelvic exercise, using a pelvic exerciser such as the ezCOME (easy Clinical Orgasm Muscle Exerciser) not only can she consciously build the muscle tension and arousal needed to make her orgasm happen, she also enjoys greater unconscious pelvic muscle tension and contractions during sexual stimulation. Women with well developed pelvic floor muscle often enjoy many spontaneous orgasms during sex. This is a fact I can personally verify.

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Here is where the right kind of relaxation is important. A woman needs to learn to relax her mind during sex. She needs to block out the mental distractions, like the ones that give her the neck and shoulder stress tension mentioned earlier, so she can focus on the sensations of sexual pleasure.
The best way to get rid of orgasm blocking stress is to replace it with sex positive images and words. For example as she is being stimulated (either by herself or a partner) she can picture in her mind a passionate or erotic scene from her favorite romance novel or movie with her and her lover in the leading roles.

She can first picture in her mind the scene as if she is watching from a distance and then mentally change her perspective and imagine she is experiencing it in person.

Or she can repeat the words “This feels really good” and “ I can take as long as I need” in her mind as she is stimulated.

These techniques keep the mind occupied with thoughts that encourage sexual arousal and enjoyment and keep out negative thoughts. Think of it as daydreaming about sex during sex so you can enjoy sex.

Once the distracting thoughts have been replaced with sex positive thoughts, pelvic floor muscle contractions are added. With practice most women can learn to tense their pelvic floor muscles and build sexual orgasmic tension while letting their minds go silent. They are then free to be in the moment with their partner as they build up to one or several orgasms.

The physical and mental exercises described help many women having difficulty with orgasm. A medical condition or medications can also interfere with a woman’s orgasm ability. Ask your doctor for more information about these.

The sex therapist designed ezCOME strengthens pelvic muscles and increases orgasms.
It comes with a diet program designed to increase a woman’s libido and orgasms.

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What Does Learning to Wiggle My Ears Have to Do with Becoming a Multi-Orgasmic Woman?

When I was a kid for some reason I wanted to learn how to wiggle my ears. I was probably 10 or 11 years old at the time and I thought being able to wiggle my ears would be so cool. Hey I was a kid.

I remember first trying to concentrate real hard and making my ears wiggle. If you haven’t tried this, it is a lot harder than it sounds. I remember feeling my face move and my eyebrows move but I couldn’t tell if my ears were wiggling.

I then tried using my hands to feel if my ears were moving, but that didn’t work very well. It wasn’t until I got the idea to look in a mirror while trying to wiggle my ears that I started to make progress.

I went in the bathroom and watched myself as a tried to figure out how to make my ears move. It took a lot of trial and error with me making all kinds of funny looking faces.

Finally after watching myself in the mirror and learning how to move my facial muscles I was able to isolate the correct muscles and I could make my ears wiggle just a tiny bit.

I remember the first things I had to learn was to not move all the other muscles in my face and learn to move just the ones needed to make my ears wiggle.

Learning to wiggle my ears was quite a challenge. It was one of those weird things I did as a kid. I am sure you have some of your own weird kid things so stop laughing at mine.

Anyway I was determined to learn to wiggle my ears and I would practice just about every time is was alone and in front of a mirror, such as when I would brush my teeth in the morning and at night.

After a couple of weeks of this I got really good at wiggling my ears. I no longer needed to look in the mirror to get it right. In fact I got so good I could wiggle each ear by itself, kind of like left and right turn signals on a car. I can wiggle the left ear or the right ear or both at the same time. I remember showing off to my friends. Nobody else in could do it.

I can still do it today. It is like learning to ride a bike. Once you learn how, the basic skill stays with you the rest of your life.

Okay you may be wondering what this has to do with a woman’s orgasm. Well quite a lot actually. You see learning to climax and enjoy easy orgasms is a lot like learning to wiggle your ears; at least it was for me. And from the research I’ve done it applies to all women. Let me explain.

After years of frustration and difficulty achieving orgasm, especially during sex with my husband, I decided I would do something about it. I knew how to climax, I had been doing it by myself since I was a teenager, but sometimes it would take forever to happen.

I decided this was not right or fair for that matter and I opened my mind to the possibility that a woman’s orgasms should be easy and frequent. I got tired of reading articles about other women who enjoyed multiple orgasms on a regular basis. I decided I was going to be one of those women.

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As I researched how to become more orgasmic I learned the importance of training my orgasm muscle or pubococcygeal muscle AKA the PC muscle. I learned that most women (over 90% in one study) did not know how to contract and control this muscle that is so critical for female orgasm.

Studies showed that most women when asked to squeeze their PC muscle mistakenly tighten their buttocks, thighs, legs, and abdominal muscles instead. Studies also showed the best way for a woman to learn to get in tune with her orgasm muscle and learn to flex it was through some kind of biofeedback.

What this means is she needs to see what she is doing so she can learn when she is doing it correctly. Then she can focus on that and improve her skill and control of the muscle.

This is when I had an “Ah ha!” moment and remembered how I had learned to wiggle my ears as a kid. I had used biofeedback when looking into the mirror to figure out how to move the muscles to wiggle my ears! And how not to move the other muscles in my face.

I was one of those women who would have to tighten my legs stiff as a board while working my way to an orgasm. Sometimes I would get a cramp in my leg. And the following day the muscles in my butt and the back of my legs would be stiff and sore.

In this on my back and stiff legged position you can forget trying to orgasm during intercourse. There was no way I could enjoy my husband and climax in this position.

I needed to be in this stiff legged position because that is how I first learned to reach orgasm when I was a teenager. That was the only way I knew how to get the muscle tension I needed to climax.

It wasn’t until I learned to consciously control my orgasm muscle using a pelvic muscle exerciser that gave me not only the resistance necessary to strengthen the pelvic muscles but also provided the biofeedback I needed did I learn how to climax in almost any position, orgasm during intercourse and do it multiple times.

Just like learning to wiggle my ears using biofeedback, regular practice with my pelvic muscle exerciser has made climaxing easier and multiple orgasms routine. Now I am one of those multi-orgasmic women I used to envy.

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How to Have an Instant Orgasm

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Thousand Year Old Sex Trick: the Secret to Female Orgasm and Marital Bliss

Here is an interesting article about a sex technique I have become very fond of, infact my nick name gopala girl comes from this.

Enjoy, Sheela a Gopala girl;)


By David Christian Solomon

Learn this hot sex trick that's thousands of years old for better sex and better health.

You constantly see headlines on magazine racks touting some new sex trick. There are no new sex tricks. Just old ones that have been rediscovered and renamed. One of the best "sex tricks" for women of any age is the vaginal squeeze.

It has many different names in different cultures and countries. In India it is called the pompoir. The Toaist call it "Holding Firm". The Arabic word for it is the Kabbazah (to clasp). In the Far East it is known as the Singapore Kiss.

They all refer to a woman developing strength and control of her vaginal muscles. Having strong vaginal and pelvic floor muscles has many benefits. Regular exercise (daily) of the PC muscle and surrounding pelvic muscles increases blood flow and nerve connections. This leads to not only improved sexual health it also expands the level of sexual enjoyment for both the woman and her male partner.

Regular vaginal training increases a woman's orgasm frequency, intensity and variety. For most women orgasm is centered in the clitoris. But with proper exercise not only does her clitoral orgasm improve; she develops the ability to experience vaginal orgasms and ejaculating orgasms.

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Women who consistently exercise and practice expand not only their own orgasmic abilities; they can also greatly increase the pleasure of their male partner. Strength and control of the vaginal muscles allow her to squeeze and hold an inserted penis of any size. For women with strong and healthy vaginal muscles, male penis size really doesn't matter.

Some may think that exercising the vaginal muscles are only for women who have given birth or have incontinence concerns. This is not true at all. In many cultures developing vaginal strength and control is important pre-wife training: 'She must close and constrict the vagina until it holds the penis...to act as the hand of the Gopala girl who milks the cow. If she does this, her husband will value her above all women, nor would he exchange her for the most beautiful queen in the Three Worlds.'

In cultures where vaginal training is encouraged the women learn to firmly grip the penis in their vagina then contract the muscles to provide a milking sensation. Men, who are fortunate enough to have such a woman, say the sensation of penile milking with a strong vagina is the ultimate sexual experience-and they prefer it over oral stimulation.

In addition to improving clitoral orgasm experiences, pelvic exercise increases the likelihood for vaginal, multiple and whole-body orgasms. This includes female ejaculation or "squirting" orgasms. It is also believed to help PMS, irregular menstruation, ovarian cysts, fibroids, incontinence, increase fertility, and more.

No matter what your age or circumstance, newly married or soon to be, a new mother or empty nester, in your fertile years or into menopause; every woman can benefit by starting a pelvic fitness program today.

About the Author
Learn about the Kabbazah and The Velvet Grip Technique.

David Solomon is the author of the Easy Orgasm Diet.

Ladies: Discover Your G-spot and Awaken New and Exciting Sensations

While the medical and sexual health establishment expert’s debate whether or not the G-spot is real and if every woman has one, you can do a little exploring for yourself.

It really doesn’t matter if every woman has a G-spot; the important thing is to find out if you do. Many women don’t realize they have one until they or their lover goes looking for it. Then once you find it and “wake it up” sex is never the same, it gets better!

You don’t need to buy any special toys or tools to use to find your G-spot. All you need is a stainless steel spoon. Whether you choose a teaspoon or tablespoon is up to you, use what ever you are comfortable with. Just make sure the edges of the spoon are smooth and don’t have any nicks or sharp edges. The spoon handle makes it easy to maneuver the spoon body and press it into the vaginal wall and wake up or stimulate the G-spot.


First warm the spoon in your hand and then make sure you are well lubricated or use additional lubrication if needed. Vitamin E works well for this. Lay down on the bed or floor and place a pillow underneath your hips. This creates the perfect angle for G-spot stimulation. You may want to cover the pillow with a towel as you may produce large amounts of fluid when you successfully find and awaken your G-spot. Fluid release is completely natural so don’t worry about it when you do.

If you don’t produce any noticeable fluid, that is okay too. But you will likely find this to change over time as you continue to practice stimulating your G-spot.

Open your legs very wide and draw your knees up to your chest. Insert the spoon into your vagina between 1 to 2 inches making sure the smooth curved side of the spoon body is facing upwards. Use the handle to press the spoon upwards into your vagina against your G-spot or any area that feels good. Keep doing this until you begin to feel “pressure” building up. Vary the amount of pressure you apply and tap the spoon quickly and vigorously. Studies have found the G-spot responds best to tapping stimulation.

You may find you can use vigorous tapping to give yourself a vaginal orgasm. To increase pleasure gyrate your hips. Slow down if you want to prolong the feeling. You can also build up and slow down repeatedly and build yourself up to an intense climax. Add clitoral stimulation as needed or desired.

If you feel pressure building and have the urge to “let go”, do it. The feeling is absolutely wonderful. It is unlike any orgasm you may have had before. Some women think this pressure is the need to urinate and they hold it in when it is really fluid built up in the female prostate from stimulating the G-spot. Don’t make that mistake. Let it go. You will be glad you did!

At first the sensations you get from stimulating your G-spot may be mild. But keep practicing and soon you will be having mind blowing orgasms. Sometimes it will take just a few minutes and at other times it will require sessions of a half our or more.
Once you have awakened your G-spot, you may find yourself building up fluid during sex with your partner. Especially, when using positions that hit the G-spot just right. When this happens don’t hold it in. Let it go! Men get incredibly excited when a woman ejaculates during sex.

Many women begin having ejaculating orgasms later in life. Years of stimulation from sex seems to awaken the g-spot. But you don’t have to wait for it to just happen. Find a spoon, awaken your G-spot and vagina and start enjoy new levels of pleasure now.

You and your partner will be glad you did.


Sometimes stimulating the G-spot isn’t enough.
Strengthening the pelvic muscles is proven to make women respond to G-spot stimulation and increase orgasm intensity.

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My Favorite G-spot Spoon

A spoon makes a great G-spot stimulator.

Here is a picture of my favorite spoon.

It was my hubby's favorite ice cream spoon.

Now it is my favorite "I scream spoon".

Here is the article I wrote detailing how to use it:

Ladies: Discover Your G-spot and Awaken New and Exciting Sensations


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Orgasmic Exercise - Get Fit for Orgasm

The first Monday in January is the busiest day of the year for gyms.

Studies show that New Year’s resolutions to begin exercising last about 2 weeks. People that join a gym go for the first couple of weeks then around the 15th of January attendance at gyms begins to drop off.

Maybe knowing those women who exercise have twice as many orgasms at those who don’t will help keep you motivated.

More than 80% of women who use a pelvic exerciser notice improvements in their sexual experience and orgasms within 4 weeks.

And the longer they keep at it the better it gets.

Effective pelvic exercises only take minutes a day with a pelvic exerciser.

You don’t have to join a gym and pelvic exercises are fun. Some women climax during their exercise sessions.

Make a New Year’s resolution you will actually keep. Start a vaginal fitness program this year.

I recommend the ezCOME. A simple way to exercise in the only way proven to quickly improve your pelvic muscle strength and sexual awareness. Learn to identify and control the correct muscles then squeeze against the resistance.

Read this article about the fantastic benefits properly trained pelvic floor muscles can give you: Fit for Orgasm

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