Anyone can give advice. And when the advice comes from someone with experience you want to pay attention.
Adult actress Ryan Keely, listed nine of her sex tips in Penthouse® magazine. Normally I don’t pay much attention to porn stars, as I find much of what they say about sex is just a bunch of over hyped nonsense and just a means of selling their product and with little value.
However, as I read Miss Keely’s sex tips I found myself relating with she was say and for the most part in agreement. She has some really good sex tips. Keep in mind she openly admits she doesn’t make love but rather; has sex. If you are a man reading this and you are with a woman who is more into romance and not so much the bad-girl type, take it slow and gauge her reactions. You want to come across as naughty; not nasty.
For the ladies reading this, it is okay to break out of your nice-girl mode. Especially behind closed doors with the one you love. It took me awhile to get in touch with my inner bad-girl and I am glad I did. Also, being a bad-girl in private does not make you a sl*t or anything like that. It just makes you a passionate lover and makes your hubby think about you more, a lot more. Trust me on this.
If you feel awkward being naughty, time your adventure into naughtiness around your monthly cycle when you feel the most horny. Now to the porn star’s sex tips:
1. Ryan recommends having snacks on hand for the after sex “munchies”. I have to admit after a nice orgasm (or two or three or more if you are like me and have developed your orgasmic ability) I feel “starving”. My favorite after sex and orgasm snacks is fresh strawberries with whipped cream. These are not always on hand, so for me cheese and crackers work. She recommends keeping an after sex sandwich on hand and have to I agree, having something available to eat after sex is a great idea.
2. Men it is bad manners to come and be done. Ryan says when a woman is with a man she expects him to help her get off. I agree with her on this. During my self cultivation sessions I am totally responsible for my own orgasms, but when I am with my hubby I expect him to help me climax. This doesn’t mean a man has to be some kind super stud. He should enjoy his orgasm, and not hold back and not feel guilty. He should just realize it ain’t over until his lady sings (screams, moans or shouts) in orgasmic bliss. “You are not done until I come too (or three or four….)” says Ryan. I agree.
3. She advises men not to try every single foreplay move they have ever heard of on a woman they are with. Foreplay is important, but not 20 minutes important. When a woman wants sex, 5 minutes or so of foreplay is usually enough to get her juices flowing if it is done right. The important thing is to make sure she is wet and wanting. If need be, use some lubrication before thrusting into her. There have been many times when I was ready and wanting, but I wasn’t very wet. Contrary to what you may have read in erotic books and magazines, how wet a woman is, is not always an indication of how turned on she is. Men don’t be afraid to use lubrication. Ryan also recommends that men at least some of the time have the woman come first. She also advises men to remember oral sex is sex, and not foreplay. Here again I have to agree with her. Get me turned on first, and then you can add oral sex to the mix.
4. She says men should not keep asking permission during sex. Of course sex has to be consensual, and don’t try anything you know the woman finds objective. But once things get going, stop asking. Just do it. A woman will let you know if they don’t like what you are trying. If it is something you haven’t tried before and she doesn’t object, chances are she will like it or at least appreciate the initiative.
5. Don’t try too many positions during one session of sex. Orgasmic tensions needs time to build. Constantly changing positions makes it difficult to relax and enjoy the moment and build up towards climax. It is better to spread your experimenting with new positions over several sex sessions.
6. Don’t be passive. Be a man. This does not mean a man should be a brute. But he should not make a woman feel she is forcing herself on him. She recommends men be active participants in the fun and games.
7. Part of being an active participant is making some noise, advises Ryan. Tell the woman how it feels, “even if all you can get out is grunts and expletives.” She says, “It is the least you can do.” She is quite vocal during sex and appreciates it when a man lets her know with a few dirty comments and some moans he is enjoying the sex too. I agree with her on this. I don’t particularly like a lot of expletives, but a little dirty talk at the right time fuels my inner bad girl. Men are too quiet during sex.
8. Don’t get all weird about bodily fluids. Ryan points out sex is messy, especially good sex. She advises men learn to love it because good sex is worth it. I say this goes for the ladies too. I think a lot more women would ejaculate during sex if they weren’t so concerned about making a mess and just let go.
9. Do spooning after sex. Ryan says, “Life will be easier and your sex life will be better if you’re the little spoon from time to time”. She has got that right. I like most women like to cuddle, especially after sex.
And remember the after sex snack. I forgot to mention I also like chocolate after sex, Dove ® Dark is my favorite, and I believe it increases my desire for more sex.
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